How can we have a true understanding of other people, if our minds are so closed we cannot even process any opinions which are contrary to the way WE think?
In order to understand you must first listen…really listen. Then, before you quote your rote memorized reply, stop and think about what you heard….really think. Think about putting yourself in the other persons position…walk a mile in their shoes. This goes for everyone on every which side, and every which position.
Hemingway said: “I love to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening. Most people never listen”.
Epictetus said: “It is impossible to begin to learn that which one thinks he already knows”.
Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will listen and obtain learning, and one who KNOWS will obtain guidance”.
I am one who has not listened well in the past, but now that my hearing isn’t quite as good, and I have had to listen more closely in order to understand…I find I have learned much more than ever before. Perhaps we should sometimes close our eyes when someone is talking and listen as would a blind man. Maybe our senses would be heightened, and we could hear beyond the sheer rhetoric and pomposity to the deep core of truth which we must surely seek.
And then there are those who quit reading after the first paragraph.