Why you Gotta be so Mean?

When you look at people who are mean, or mean spirited, you have to wonder…why?

Mean, as an adjective is defined as follows:





adjective: mean; comparative adjective: meaner; superlative adjective: meanest


unwilling to give or share things, especially money; not generous.

“she felt mean not giving a tip”

synonyms: miserly, niggardly, close-fisted, parsimonious, penny-pinching, cheeseparing, Scroogelike; More

informal, tightfisted, stingy, tight, mingy, money-grubbing, cheap;


“he’s too mean to leave a tip”h

antonyms: generous, munificent


unkind, spiteful, or unfair.

“it was very mean of me”

synonyms: unkind, nasty, unpleasant, spiteful, malicious, unfair, cruel, shabby, foul, despicable, contemptible, obnoxious, vile, odious, loathsome, base, low; More

informal, horrible, horrid, hateful, rotten, lowdown;


“a mean trick”

antonyms: kind


vicious or aggressive in behavior.

“the dogs were considered mean”


That’s a lot to take in I know. The actual thing about a person being mean, as opposed to being kind is that for the most part…it’s a conscious choice to be mean. People actually know it most of the time when they are being mean. At the very least, they highly suspect it, but don’t care.

As long as you’re not being mean to your own particular “group, clik, or associates” …well that makes it ok, doesn’t it? It’s ok to be mean to those who don’t look like you, think like you, act like you, are beneath your social class, are not as educated as you, or with whom you generally just don’t have anything in common.

It doesn’t count if you’re just a little bit mean to them.

It’s just my opinion, but I think it’s the one thing which is the most wrong with our country and our world.

I’ve been guilty of being mean. We all have. But I think more and more how much easier it is just to be kind. I want to try harder not to be mean.

It’s certainly a battle we all have to fight every day.

But I think it’s worth it. I think the world would be better for it.